Today is the anniversary of my father’s death. I had promised I wouldn’t focus on it but what I have noticed was the fact that it wasn’t his death that came to me when I thought about him but his time with me. I can see him in my minds eye laughing at something ridiculous that he might have said and believe me that would be easy 🙂. I hear him telling me to do something that I didn’t want to do not because it was wrong but just because he told me to do it. He and I argued a lot because I just figured he was not the boss of me and so therefore should not be telling me what to do. He didn’t care that I was grown. The fact is I am my father’s child and I figure that’s why we butted heads just a little too often. I can remember occasions when my stepmom would be saying loudly, “children, stop.” Yes that was in reference to us both. The thing is we argued about everything and I remember saying to a friend when he died, “who will I argue with now?” She suggested my husband but that wouldn’t work. He nothing like my dad in that sense. My dad argued for the fun of it and thought he was in charge of everything. When I describe him I always say “he could sell ice to Eskimo”. I do miss him but I don’t allow myself to go into depression because that’s not me and he wouldn’t have allowed it. Do remember there is so much to enjoy with life. It’s for living. Go see the world and take my grandkids with you.
It’s not his death that I celebrate but life. What is there to do? What should I do? Where should I go when I want to go see the world? I might not get to do that much any more, you know with the children being in school but I go on these guided tours sometimes on YouTube. It’s fun try it. I have been teaching myself new things. So much to learn but so little time. For me the important thing is to remember what he told me and I continue to think that I will never look back on my life and regret not doing something because I was scared. He would say go do it, what’s the worst that could happen? That’s so true, you can’t just decide to play possum because you are scared. Fear as you know and I have said so many times will paralyzed you. Get out of your head and go do your thing. If you don’t know what you want to do then try many things until you find the secret sauce to your life.
You can’t be secretly or openly envious of what others have created if you don’t try. They did and that’s why they have what they have. Is it because they are lucky or because they made their own luck? Remember the definition of luck is opportunity meeting preparedness. If you not prepared then you won’t be able to grasp the opportunity when presented. I have seen it so many times. I have seen persons not go after a job for example because they didn’t have the requisite qualifications or skills in their mind. It was in many situations because of fear. As I said before fear can and will paralyze you if you allow it.
How does one go about getting to that point where life is where they want it? Is it ever where we want it or is it that we keep learning and therefore growing? How do we cultivate the tools and skills needed to take us to that next level? I know in my case the options will present themselves and I have to see the forest for the trees. Sometimes it’s being willing to jump and pray the net will appear. It very often does buts the initial jump that will/might scare you to death. What else to do but look at the big picture and see what is out there and go grasp it with both hands. I’m glad and proud of many of the things that I have done and will push to see what else I can accomplish. Still have the book to write. That’s has been going slower than expected. I guess it will hit me one day 🤔. I will just have to carry on. Can’t stop as there is no reason to. Life is for living, that’s what we should be doing. If you not living the way you want then what are you doing? Whose life is it? Why give your life over to others because they think they know what you should be doing. Get up and go do your thing. That’s what my dad would tell me. As he said “never look back on your life and wished you had but look back and say I did.”
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Always remember life is for living and you must always live your best life. #lifeisforliving #liveyourbestlife #gratefulforlife #faithgreaterthanfear
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