One morning when I was dropping the kids at school, Zavier told me he didn’t need me to hold his hand while walking him to class and Alexis made me know it wasn’t necessary to come to her class when I dropped off her brother. She had not told me not to hold her hand at six, she simply dropped my hand after we left the parking lot on the way to class. I remember when Markel (my nephew-son) was six I dropped him at school one morning and while he was getting out of the car I asked him “where is my kiss”. I was told “no, they might see.” I have never figured out who they were and I was not hugged in public until he was about fourteen. I guess he understood what his grandma and I had told him. “They are not in control of your life.” Somebody still need to let me know who is they.😂
Children grow up really fast and if you sit there and make them your world then when they move on what happens is your world crashes. That’s why on my list of priorities my husband comes before my children. Sounds strange to some people but when they go my best friend will still be there with me. Work on those other relationships. Believe me even if they don’t move away physically they go mentally. Look back at your life and what happened with your parents. It’s a cycle, “the cycle of life”, and it can’t be stopped.
Don’t get me wrong, you must be there for them and do it even better than your parents did for you. Love and protect and very importantly tell them that you love them and are proud of them. I’m there for them in case they need me if they fall. I am there to guide and protect. I try not to be a helicopter parent. It’s hard but ……
As I wrote in a previous blog, many parents of the generation before didn’t do that. I know my parents didn’t. I guess they assumed we knew. But using their own words “never assume.” It is lovely to hear how much love and respect someone has for you. Especially the ones that you looked up to. Children need validation and the best persons to give that to them are their parents.
Let me know if your parents told you how much love and respect they had for you and the impact it had on you. If they didn’t wouldn’t you have loved them to do just that?
Let me know by any medium how you feel and if there is anything you want me to write about that’s dear to you heart.
See you next Wednesday, at 8:00 pm.
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Hey Andrea, your topics are always thought provoking. I love how you weave your family into the story to support or clarify your perspective.
Thanks. Best way to make a point, story telling. Learnt that along the way 😉
Hi Andrea,
Really enjoy reading your blogs…very thought provoking topics, and so on point! Keep at it my Girl!
🙏🏽. Will continue.
Some of us know how to read our parents. Even if they don’t VERBalise their love for us, we feel it in their actions, and assimilate their love into our thoughts and actions.
We can learn a lot from animals – they survive from their instincts, while our emotions guide us – that’s the fundamental difference.
As you rightly said, don’t hover, just guide, and when our children are ready they will glide.
…glide like a bird from the nest…
True words my friend. Unfortunately many persons have to hear things to believe so let your kids know you love them by saying so. Love how you said guide and then they will glide away just like baby birds do.