“Trust takes years to build, seconds to break and forever to repair.”
I saw the quote above and thought it was a good subject to write about. Don’t know who the quote is attributed to at all. It totally resonated with me. It’s a subject near and dear to my heart. It’s easy for me to meet people and get to know them but not all will become my friends as there is no trust. I know that without trust we have a serious problem in our lives. I mean in all aspects of our lives as it’s an integral part of how we live and how we see the world. Look back to when we were children if we didn’t trust our caregivers then we didn’t trust the world. That I think carried over into adulthood. Trust is not something easily given no matter how hard you try to achieve it and when broken it’s hard to regain it. I know as I have seen it up front and personal. What about you? I’m sure you could tell stories that would make my hair curlier 😁.
You know some people can’t understand when you move away from them when they break trust. After all it was just a one time thing. No that’s not how things work when you break that fragile thread then it takes ages to try weaving it back together. This is especially important with family and friends. It matters too in the workplace but not as much as it doesn’t hurt as much in my mind if the trust is broken there. After all it’s just a job. 🤔. My mind is wired to handle that situation but not so much with the family and to a lesser extent your friends.
How does one know who should have our trust? Do we follow our instincts or is it a scientific decision? How do we walk that thin line? I have been able to rely on my gut feelings throughout my life as to who to trust and it has not lead me down the garden path. The one time I didn’t listen to my gut I made a massive mistake. Thankfully it happened early enough in my life for me to realize I should allow my instincts to lead me. If you try to access the person on a “scientific” level there is a great possibility they look well on paper but not so well when you get to know them. How do you determine who to trust?
The thing is when that trust is broken it’s the hardest thing to repair. Broken trust puts you in a vulnerable position and you have to decide if you want to allow the person back into your circle because they might hurt you again. Believe me being hurt is no fun but does it really have to be a part of life? Or is it that some have no regards for other persons feelings? I have heard the statement before “but s/he cheated only one time, what’s the big deal? Just forgive and allow them some slack.” Interestingly the forgiving is usually the easy part, especially if you forgive for your own benefit. No, forgiving doesn’t mean that you forget. That would be madness. The hard part is allowing that person back into your circle especially with open arms. It’s a slow process to build back that trust, if it’s built back at all. While on the other hand if the person is expected to digress then it doesn’t matter as there was no trust to begin with and so the hurt is minimal if there at all. Do you agree or do you think it doesn’t matter?
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