…How often do we give people permission to become so involved in our lives that they eventually begin to believe they have a right to make decisions for us? And do we sometimes contribute to that without even recognising what we are doing?  Think about it for a moment.  Perhaps it starts with something small. We ask someone what they think before making a decision…

…I think we sometimes confuse being a good person with being an endlessly available person. We confuse kindness with always saying yes. We confuse love with giving people unlimited access to us.  And perhaps, without even realising it, we teach people that they can continue to cross our boundaries because we will always find a way to accommodate them…

…Forgiveness does not mean that you have to give someone continued access to your life.  Think about it for a moment. We all have enough things to deal with in our own lives. There are responsibilities, challenges, decisions to make, and sometimes just the everyday business of trying to keep everything together. So why should we willingly invite additional stress into our lives?…

…Maybe trust isn’t really about what someone tells us.  Maybe it is about what they repeatedly show us.  How they behave when things don’t go their way.  How they treat people who cannot do anything for them.  Whether their words match their actions.  Whether they are the same person when no one is watching.  Whether they respect the boundaries we put in place…

…perhaps walking in your purpose doesn’t mean that you have everything figured out.  Maybe it means taking the next step with what you know right now.  Then taking another step when you know a little more.  Maybe purpose is something we discover while walking, rather than something we must completely understand before we start…