Some persons always have drama swirling around them like a cyclone. Only God can tell how they seem to do it. Many persons have it down to an art. I leave them to it until they try to drag me in to be a part of their drama. You know I don’t do drama and so in my mind I have to pull away and use that Polish quote, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”
If you get yourself pulled into their chaotic world then your world will not be normal and will never get back any semblance of normalcy until you push all of the drama etc away. I have had to be saying this to myself recently so as to ensure persons toxicity don’t enter my world and pollute it. I know it can be done as I have been doing it relatively successfully. You keep the drama and all the issues you are having and I will not absorb it. It doesn’t mean I’m heartless, it just means I care about me more. Self love is very important. If I take on your drama and wear it around me like a cloak then it’s possible it will make its way into my life and affect my family life. No thank you. I can listen sympathetically and offer you the best advice I can give according to the circumstances, but I won’t take it on, that’s yours. You keep it and do what you will.
Why is it that some persons think you unfeeling because you decide that you will not allow their issues to become your own? I see this time and time again. The worst thing is that it wears you down and sometimes makes you wonder if it’s worth it. So as not to have the situation engulf me and become my burden I will walk away. “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”
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Yes I do agree, it slowly comes in and takes over your life. Sometimes you feel so pitiful for the person, depending on the situation you become emotionally drained, and this limits the amount of love and support your able to express to your immediate family. So Not My Circus not My Monkeys i have mastered this expression, when these situations arise majority of the time we try relating to the situation we have been through to offer comfort, support and advice. I stopped doing that reason being it brings you in a state of depression reliving a situation that you have buried. So now my advice are more motivating * you will get over it, once you have life stay focused work hard and you will achieve* Often Times persons feel better once the Burden is lifted off their should and now fallen on yours Without the knowledge of how there situation have affected your life. So its not that you Don’t care is just that you choose being stress free, expressing true self love and being emotionally stable.
That’s what I mean. When it moved by them from their shoulders to your it then pushes you down with the burden.
I chose to not take your burden. I will support you but not carry your burden.
You learn, at some point in our lives we all have had such experiences where you take up someone’s problems lock stock and barrel thinking its yours to solve.. But after some draining experiences you learn to care without the baggage. You learn to say … “I am sure you will work things out”. You give support and love without taking on the circus..
Leave the circus. It takes some work but sooner or later you have to learn to leave it to the owner.
In such situations the best you can do is say a prayer. More things are wrought by prayer than this world dreams of. God can do a much better than I can in such situations.
So the best thing to do is push them towards God to help with their issues.
I have personally sent up many a prayers to ask for help for them because God knows I can’t take on their drama.
Girl u hit the nail on the head, i had to learn this lesson years ago and by God’s grace i try not to go there with people and their circus, do they listen when u need a shoulder, very few, to God be glory we have to know what we put in our spirits. Bless you
At least you learnt the lesson, many don’t. Leave them to their own circus. Your burden will be less.