Yesterday made ten years since I laid my mother to rest. I can never forget the year she died as it was the same year my daughter was born. It was a very sad year for me but a really happy year. That’s when I realized you can live in both states with ease. You don’t have to put away one to live in the other. Well that’s me, what do you think?
I remembered when she died someone I know said you must get over it and move on. You know the strangest thing about it? That person has never lost a parent and so knows nothing about the grief. I just looked at him and shook my head. I now realize I must really have been grieving as I ignored him and allowed him to talk. You all know normally I would have just told him what I thought of that statement 😉. How do you give advice when you have no concept of the subject? Maybe he read a book 🤷🏽♀️.
One would have thought the pain would have been gone totally, but that’s not the situation. For me it’s always there. When you look in the mirror and see your mother looking back at you every day then you know she will always be with you literally and figuratively. I really miss her. My kids however can’t say that as they never knew her. Such a pity, she would have loved them and they her. Just one of those things in life. Yesterday was emotional for me and I know she was there with me. I just felt her presence. Maybe it was all in my mind 🤔.
I’m glad she lived a full life and encouraged me to live life to its fullest. She was a glass half full person, never a glass half empty. The way she lived life was contagious and encouraged all she came in contact with to truly enjoy life. She laughed a lot and saw the good in people. I hope I am living her legacy and also passing on her way of thinking. “Eat, drink and be merry, as you never know what tomorrow will bring.” Live in the now was what and how she lived. Plan but live in the present, not the future. Life is meant to be lived. Just live responsibly. 😄.
Let me know what you think. Have you lost someone really close and you know how I feel? I really want to know what you are thinking, and I know others do too. Try commenting 👍🏽, but if you are not comfortable, reach out to me via any medium. Your comments let me know how you feel and very often give me a total different perspective on the topic. 😉. And you can never tell your comment might help others.
Always remember life is for living and you must always live your best life. #lifeisforliving #liveyourbestlife.
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For all those mourning the lost of any loved one, I would encourage sharing this article. Well done
Thanks much. Glad to help. It makes it easier for me.
Sadly I know firsthand the great void that the loss of a loving mother can bring. But at the same time I’m happy for the legacy left of living life in the here and now, sharing and caring for others, and balancing work and play.
This will be my first Christmas without my mom, who I think of more as it gets closer to the day, as it would also have been her birthday. I’m however looking forward to keeping the traditions and having our usual family Christmas dinner. It’s a most wonderful time of the year.
You are so right, you can be glad and sad at the same time.
I know your mom, and mine, will forever live on in our hearts and memories. Plus I see your mom in you.
Love and blessings my friend.
It’s good when we can say I miss you and truly mean it. It’s important to let people know how you feel when they are physically here. That we did and I know it meant the world to them.
As you said they will always be in our hearts. 🤗
I have lost 2 love ones. My mother was especially a tough one but she did live a full life. Always helping or providing life advice to others in some way. Miss her dearly as she would have enjoyed spoiling her grand daughter who reminds me every day of what her childhood would have been like. God bless her.
God bless her. The best thing is that she lived her life and you learned first hand how that’s done. She will always be in your heart.
Always ensure her grandchildren know what she was like. That way they have an idea of the phenomenal woman. 🙏🏽
Well said. Mums was truly a blessing to all of us. She is missed dearly but left an incredible legacy of love, laughter, compassion and caring. Merry Christmas and only the best to you and your family in the new year.
Happy holidays to you. Her legacy will always live though us. She taught us well.